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grantaire-put-that-bottle-down:
thought i would create a powerpoint on this since the post went down well yesterday
Quite good, but I do suggest fetching them something cool (water would be best, but a bottle of soda could work to). Drinking can help, as can resting the bottle on the back of their neck
important
very important
PSA
most important is to be patient, if they can sense you getting frustrated or annoyed it will only make it worse
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Yes, omg, being told to calm down only makes it worse. Way worse.
Also, asking them to objectivly describe an object thats in the line of sight helps. Only factual information regarding that object, no subjective ideas around the object, just pure factoids. For example:
The item is X color. The item has this shape. It is used for X, the item has X design, X function, retails for X amount (since a lot of panic attacks happen in stores/ in public) etc etc. Shifting the focus from the reason they are panicking to something entirely objective can be the difference between a massive melt down, to something that is manageable but will still often result is disassociation, its unavoidable). Its important not to discuss what triggered the attack, as it often will just force the person into relapse.
reblogging for the latest commentary, mostly.
also what most people (people who don’t suffer from panic disorder) don’t know is that this is the most horrifying thing a person can go through. so a little respect and understanding goes a long way. but don’t be scared of it. nothing bad is going happen! it’s all in the head!
if they start chanting they’re about to die. reassure them they won’t die. or pass out. or go crazy. or what their greatest fear is. example: i have emetophobia and i get a panic attack whenever i get nauseous (which is hell when you suffer from chronic nausea)
having someone to reassure me i won’t puke my guts out is EXTREMELY helpful.it’s impossible to pass out from a panic attack alone, i don’t remember the exact chemistry behind it, but it has something to do with monoxide levels in the blood and blood pressure. (however, passing out can cause a panic attack. funny how things work)
lying down and trying to relax might help for some, others like to pace back and forth because a panic attack is essentially an intense and acute reaction to extreme stress so it might help to get some of the excess energy out.
don’t be scared if the person with the panic attack starts crying or make loud noises. also, don’t be scared if they seem completely ‘normal’. some people express it externally. some don’t.
distraction doesn’t always have to mean having a conversation, or objectively scanning your environment. some might get help from touching something soft. or smelling something nice. it’s all about soothing and getting back to yourself since you’re dissociated from reality.
sometimes it helps to get a strong mint to suck on, some chewing gum, ice cubes, or my personal favorite: picked or raw ginger root. (because it’s strong and it makes you produce saliva, having a dry mouth can feel very distressing)
if you wear shoes, take off your shoes and socks. ground yourself. if you can, open a window or get outside for some fresh air.
sometimes it helps to eat something sugary. fructose tablets are great for this. (bananas is my staple food for high anxiety periods.)
laugh it off if you can. a lot of the time they happen at the most inconvenient situations.
find your own personal tricks that work. that’s important. if something doesn’t work, or make it worse, try something else.
something that irks me in the original post is where it says “sometimes panic attacks come from nowhere”
that’s now how panic attacks works at all. there is ALWAYS an underlying stressor, or a lot of them at the same time, even if you might not have acknowledged it yourself. they might feel like they come from nowhere, but they don’t.but yes, PATIENCE AND RESPECT.
remember, you are dealing with someone going through the most terrifying thing in the world. don’t be a fucking asshole.
AHAHA my mother keeps ranting at me about how me being upset “upsets her so much she feels sick” like fuck off it’s your fucking fault.
argh.
OKAY ORGANISING BIRTHDAY STUFF kinda freaking out because the place I want to go is often pretty full?? and I really hope it’ll be okay but it probably will because it’s on a street pretty much full of bars and if we can’t go in there we can go anywhere else on the street and it’ll still be fun. I nearly want to get the $1000 bar tab that lets you get in right away but like holy fuck no I don’t have that money that is insane you insane people.
But omg I am so freaked out I need to get ID so I can actually drink now that I’ll be eighteen and I need my birth certificate which my dad still hasn’t given me and omg. gonna die.
ALSO SYLVESTER ISNT DEALING WELL WITH THINGS BEING DIFFERENT/ME BEING DOWN HERE.
He is like, staring at everything, and when he walks on furniture he treads super lightly and carefully like it might just vanish from underneath him.
Anxiety
Anxiety is terrible. I went from being content, talkative, etc to being a panicy mess.
No panic attacks happened though, I calmed down.
I’m probably going to remain silent for the remainder of the class though. Ach.
I should really see somebody about this but.. yeah.
God damn fucking fear.