You don’t ever want to have kids = okay
You don’t ever want to be in a caregiver role with children (including babysitting) = okay
You don’t think other people should have children = NOT okay
You don’t think other people should have “too many” children = NOT okay
You don’t ever want to see children in public = NOT okay
You don’t ever want to see pictures of children on Facebook or other parts of the internet (and like mocking people who post those pictures) = NOT okay
You think children should always be quiet and/or perfectly behaved in public = NOT okay
You talk about how awful, terrible, or otherwise bad kids are, call them names, are otherwise venomous in your language about kids = NOT okay
(By children I mean anyone from newborn until puberty. Teens fall into a different category and face different attitudes, as a general rule.)
If anyone has more things to add to this list, please do!
I really don’t like this list. You say “think”. I don’t think people should have children, both specifically and otherwise. I genuinely cannot imagine wanting children. Pregnancy disgusts me. am I telling people not to have kids? no. am I stopping people from having kids? no. Why are my thoughts hurting you? Yes children should be well behaved in public. If a child steals my bag or starts pulling on my hair/jewelry/etc, I have a right to be upset.
And in my own personal life, with people I know, I am allowed to talk about how terrible kids are, both specifically referring to children I know, and in general. I don’t *like* children. that is okay.
What I can’t do? go up to people and berate them for having children/too many children/etc, or tell children how awful they are personally. I can’t go up to random people and start talking about how all children are awful, just like how you can’t go up to people and tell them that x religion is awful, or x politician is awful. It isn’t polite.
But you cannot say that my thoughts, opinions, and my language (with people who understand my feelings xor agree with them) are not okay. I cannot change my thoughts. I cannot change my disgust at pregnancy. If I could be okay with pregnancy, I would be. It isn’t a choice that I can’t understand children or change my language to talk to them or be tolerant of behaviors like stealing or breaking objects “because they’re young”.
You can’t say that things I don’t have control over are “not okay”.